There is a certain sort of person who will read a post and then, without previous connection, put significant effort into emailing the blogger. This is a little difficult for me to understand these days since I can’t even manage to promptly reply to email from immediate family. I am incredibly impressed with the generosity and kindness of others.
Sure, some of the random emails are freaky, but others are brilliant reminders of the goodness of so many strangers who happen to read my words.
A few of the nicest emails I have gotten have consisted of thoughtful urging to consider having a baby ASAP. Because these people seem so very concerned about me I cannot help but feel a little badly for them for being so worried about me. It does not matter what I am or am not going through or choosing to do, what matters is that they think that I am oblivious to the reality of declining fertility.
That could not be further from the truth. It isn’t just that I was raised to obsess about this sort of thing, or even that I went to a college where the probability of having to undergo fertility treatments was discussed in economics class. As a woman who practices fertility awareness, I quite literally watch my fertility decline.
People like to talk about fertility issues in terms of a woman’s 30s, but that is not the whole story. While fertility does start to decline much more sharply as a woman approaches her mid-30s, it has been dropping for over a decade, even without extenuating fertility issues.
As a 20-year-old I puzzled over how women could expect to have such low pregnancy rates with only a week or week and a half of abstinence. I knew that fertility would decline, but it just did not seem real how much it could decline so quickly. While a 25-year-old may not have a significantly reduced chance of pregnancy in any given month, she may have to, how shall we say… try a little harder than a 20-year-old.
Six years later I am very aware of how old I am and what my reproductive status is and is not. This too is one of the gifts of being in tune with your body. Perhaps this subject is not talked about much because so few women track their fertility during their early 20s without adding in the additional factor of a pregnancy or two. But for those of us who pay attention it would be incredibly difficult to not be aware of declining fertility.
At what point did you first consider declining fertility? If you have not yet, do you think it will be significant to you at some point?
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