You have one identity. The days of you having a different image for your work friends or co-workers and for the other people you know are probably coming to an end pretty quickly… Having two identities for yourself is an example of a lack of integrity. – Mark Zuckerberg
I believe that Mr. Facebook’s views are shared by two groups of people: Those for whom Silicon Valley is “the real world” and those who are completely socially inept. We may each have one identity (though I think not) but in order to properly relate to others we should reveal a different side of that identity to different people at different times.
It is not a sign of integrity to share the same conversations with your boss that you do with your best friend. It is not a sign of integrity to wear a bikini to church. It is not a sign of integrity to tell your grandfather’s best friend exactly what it is you like most about using cycle beads rather than the Marquette Model.
Some of us (hello, Josh) may be happy for Google to know everything about us in order to make our lives a bit easier. But who wants Google to tell one’s mother that one is getting back together with one’s ex? Letting Google or Facebook share one’s entire life with the world isn’t about integrity, it is about social insensitivity.
Since the start of this blog I have struggled to combine my identities. And it has not worked. For a while I worked to keep my Catholicism from overwhelming everything else. I soon got bored. Then I flooded both the design and content with Catholicism, and it was far too much. I realized that I would never start out a conversation with an acquaintance by telling them that I go to mass every day, so why should I greet random blog readers with endless pictures of the Blessed Mother?
So I decided to separate out most of my heavily Catholic content. And I could not be happier. If you’d like to read more of my crazy Catholic posts you can find them at Catholic No Wealth But Life.
Zuckerberg would say that I am showing a lack of integrity. I say that this makes the blogworld feel just a bit more like the real world, and I like it.
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