Every family is different. Every mother is different. Every family’s size should be determined based on what is best for that particular family. And it is next to impossible to understand a family’s dynamic based on size alone.
My mother in law is both gracious and wise. This means that she has said absolutely nothing directly to me about what I should or should not be doing in the way of family planning. That is a very good thing since I am neither wise nor gracious and can only imagine what I would say in response. I am sure that it would make for a wonderful blog post, but a horrible relationship.
During a recent visit the subject of family size came up. I was very happy to hear her wisdom on determining how many children to have.
She said that when her children were young people would ask her how on earth she did it all with six children. And she would dismiss their awe and think that it was really no big deal. She just did it.
But now she looks at families with ten children and thinks the exact same thing that the parents of two children used to think about her. She said she knows that if she had had a seventh child it would have broken her.
The important thing is not whether your family size seems large or small from the outside. What matters is how things work for you. And sometimes what seems so natural to you will seem dreadful to others and what seems impossible to you will be perfect for someone else.
Be wise. Be generous with yourself and your children. Be gentle with yourself and your children.
I suppose that my mother-in-law does not need to give me advice because I can read it all there between the lines of what she says as she reflects on her own life.
What is some of the best family planning advice that you have been given? Was it given directly?
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